Hey ya’ll. Thankfully 2020 is over and we can start to move forward in life. Like many of you last year was hard. It was the year of Covid-19 and my mom died (of Brain Cancer not Covid)… need I say more.
As I start 2021 however I look back and realize, although 2020 wasn’t great, it had some pretty fantastic moments. I quit my job because it was a toxic work environment, I became closer to my family, I got engaged to the man of my dreams, my brother got engaged, and despite the no travel order we had a lot of adventures.
Now its January 2021, the time to set new years resolutions and the “New Year, New Me” mentality starts to kick in. I love setting goals but I’m not the biggest fan of new year resolution, almost like the new year is the perfect time to pick up your life and recreate yourself. In reality every day, every hour or every second is the perfect time to re-evaluate and start something new. You don’t need a new year to start a new habit or kick out an old one.
Like I said, though, I am a huge fan of goal setting. It is so important to learn how to make healthy, realistic and maintainable goals, but as many of us know its also pretty hard. I am still finding myself saying I want to do something and then realizing my strategy to get there is convoluted and unrealistic for me. Everyone works differently but I have found if I set myself an hard immovable goal such as “I am going to workout every morning at 5:00AM”, it doesn’t work. I need options, there are going to be days that I don’t go to bed at 9:00PM and therefore should not wake up at 5:00AM to work out. What about new years eve? Its unrealistic for me to have concrete goals such as this.
So, what are my goals for 2021? Well I’m still working on them. I have a lot of things I want to do but I still haven’t thought of a concrete plan for them. I also dont want to get caught up in the mindset of “I dont know how so Im not going to start” either. My big goals this year are focusing on my mental and physical health. I want to feel healthy, have more energy and be positive about my mind and body.
One way I am going to do this is not using negative self talk. Oh boy this one is a doozy because I am such a culprit of this every single day. I’m not saying its just not going to happen, but if it does I am going to try to recognize it and apologize to myself. I am thinking of it this way; I would NEVER say the things I say about myself to another person, ever! Why am I saying them to me? I don’t have kids, but when I do eventually have a child I never want my child to hear me saying that my body is ugly or how I dislike myself in anyway. I want my kids to love themselves and their bodies.
As a child I hated my body, I was awkward and straggly. When I was in college I started liking myself more mainly because I was surrounded by new people who didn’t know me so I became very confident. Then for some reason as an adult I lost that confidence, well this year I am taking it back again. Regaining control over my life and my self love.